When interpreted correctly, a woman's body language can convey a lot of valuable information about her feelings, thoughts and opinions towards the other person, even if they are not directly expressed in words. Understanding gestures also plays an important role in the art of seduction and flirting. This allows you to read intentions and signals and even predict future behavior. Research shows that women's nonverbal speech is richer and more transparent than men's. It is she who often serves as a subconscious “green light” for a man and an invitation to action.
The idea that women encourage men to flirt was confirmed in the 1980s by social psychologist Timothy Perper and anthropologist David Givens. Yes, this is a controversial theory. But back to the facts: Scientists spent 9,000 hours observing the behavior of women and men in American bars. The results were clear: men decide to make contact only when, thanks to non-verbal communication, they can be sure that they will not be rejected. As a result, a common complaint from men is that they misinterpreted the woman's behavior and took the first steps based on this.
Female body language - what is it?
Nonverbal communication is a direct reflection of thoughts and emotions. This is the effect of the interaction of external stimuli, internal experiences and thoughts. In the most general sense, the body language of a woman and a man shows whether a person feels comfortable and safe, whether he is interested in the environment or is wary of it.
Body language signals and reactions occur at an unconscious level, so it is almost impossible to completely hide and fake them. Male body language has similar characteristics. However, it happens that social taboos, nervousness or self-doubt disrupt this process and give conflicting signals. To some extent, it is also possible to learn to control posture or gestures, which helps in conscious non-verbal communication. However, complete control over facial expressions or micro-gestures is impossible. Experts also note that if you want to read nonverbal communication, you must view the person as a whole. One signal can confirm or deny uncertainty, willingness to flirt, or any other emotional state.
Types of features
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Signs that can express a man’s sympathy are divided into two types:
- Verbal;
- Non-verbal.
Verbal are so-called actions. What a man does and clearly demonstrates. And non-verbal ones are those that can only be noticed if you start observing.
Verbal ones include:
- Verbal or written declaration of sympathy;
- Compliments and praise;
- Stories about your personality: hobbies, tastes, interests;
- Gifts and surprises;
- Interest and curiosity about your personality;
- Providing assistance or services;
- Meeting relatives or friends.
Nonverbal include:
Signs that someone is in love with you
- Sight;
- Facial expressions;
- Body position;
- Voice timbre;
- Gesticulation.
Body language of a woman interested in a man
Professor Monica Moore, a psychologist at Saint Louis University, estimated that a woman sent up to 35 signals in an hour inviting a man to flirt. At the same time, the average man needs to read at least 12 of them to understand a woman's intentions. This means that a woman's body language can be misinterpreted or not noticed at all.
What are the most common - conscious or not - female gestures that indicate interest in a man and consent to flirting? The most important of them:
- Straight silhouette facing the man. To be precise, this is a straight body and neck, arms laid back, and an open chest.
- Eyes wide open, eyebrows slightly raised. This gesture is often perceived as an expression of surprise, but if it lasts a split second, it indicates an unconscious reaction to a promising acquaintance or meeting someone who seems interesting.
- Slight opening of lips. The phrase "slack jaw" is often used to describe the behavior of a person who is impressed by someone or something. To some extent, this is what happens: the downward tilt of the chin and mouth expresses pleasant surprise.
- A sincere smile. Although it's difficult to define, the human brain can tell the difference between a genuine smile and a forced one. This is because your facial muscles relax as a natural reaction.
- Neck exposure. This is a clearly seductive gesture. This could be a deviation of the hair or a tilt of the head. The skin on the neck is highly innervated, and the area itself is erotic.
- Opening the inside of the wrists. This is a gesture similar to baring the neck. Its goal is to show vulnerability and a desire to get to know each other better.
- Playing with hair. This is a relatively common and often deliberately used technique. This can include twisting your hair into strands, twirling it around your fingers, or pushing your hair back.
- Trembling eyelashes. Of course, it's not surprising that most cartoon characters do this:. Psychologists say that rapid eyelid movement is a sign of innocence and vulnerability that affects men.
Gestures and eye contact in general go a long way. It is true that this is also one of the manifestations of trust in another person, but research shows that staring at the interlocutor for more than a second is a signal of greater interest in the person than in the subject he is talking about. It is worth paying attention to posture: crossing your legs is designed to focus a man’s attention on the area of interest to him. If a woman allows her shoe to slip off her foot, she is making a gesture that is sometimes called the "stripper slipper." This is one way to expose an initially covered part of the body.
So, everything points to the fact that a woman's body language when flirting is largely based on the assumption of sexual interest, although we know well that flirting is first and foremost a brain thing. And gestures can be misinterpreted. An exposed neck and running your fingers over it could very well be a sign of stress. How to recognize this? The likelihood of error is reduced if we assume that when a woman makes movements involuntarily and without eye contact, the behavior is more likely to be involuntary and not related to flirting.
Verbal expressions of affection
These are the manifestations that “lie on the surface.” Men never do things “just for the sake of it.” Any of their actions pursues a specific goal. And for the sake of the woman he likes, he is capable of much.
Desire for communication
First of all, a man is interested in whether a woman is free, what her habits, tastes, and preferences are. She is interested in everything that concerns her personality.
A man displays this behavior to determine your common ground, compare your hobbies, and also to properly arrange surprises and choose gifts.
Attentiveness and care
Every man knows that a woman prioritizes these qualities. By them she will judge a man as a future husband and father.
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Therefore, he sincerely worries and strives to isolate the object of his interest from everything. A man strives to help carry bags, offer a hand, take off and put on outerwear, walk home, and intercede in every possible way and not give offense.
Actions
- Shows interest when calling and answering calls;
- Pays for dinners or travel, thereby demonstrating a willingness to provide;
- Shows concern by walking you home;
- Wants to please by giving gifts;
- He is interested in when the next meeting will be - he will think about it all the time after your separation;
- During the meeting, ignores all other calls (if possible) - demonstrates good manners;
- Shows courage, even if he didn’t particularly stand out for it before. By this, a man shows courage and readiness to protect.
Demonstrating a sense of humor
Frequent jokes also contain signs of a man’s sympathy. They help him gain mutual sympathy and attract attention.
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Jokes provide an opportunity to demonstrate your own eloquence and intelligence, to establish yourself as a positive person with whom you want to spend time. Witty and funny jokes help a woman remember a past meeting with a smile, and make her want to meet again, because it’s so easy and fun to be with this man.
A joke is an excellent psychological technique to successfully break an awkward pause, and laughter is the best way to relieve tension.
Men don't want to complicate things. If you like a woman, then you have to take her and make her his. But before moving on to action, you can try to “read” it.
Now you know a little more about how to understand that a man has sympathy for you. Use this to know for sure whether he is ready to take action.
Body language of a woman in love
As emotional involvement increases, so does the catalog of gestures. The body language of a woman in love is different from the nonverbal communication used in pure flirting. The issue of physical distance between two people also plays a big role. The above gestures can become more bold and obvious. The desire to be close often turns into a literal invasion of personal space.
When a woman clearly points her body and feet at a man during a conversation, she expresses her interest in him. Legs often reveal hidden intentions: to approach, to run away, to create a boundary. It is noticeable that the facial expressions and gestures of a girl or woman in love imitate those of the object of affection. Copying movements or frowns is unconscious and based on the action of mirror neurons. It is also important how the interlocutor reacts to touch and whether she initiates it more or less randomly. The search for physical contact, hugging or stroking is one of the proofs of falling in love, caused by the need for intimacy. Thus, entering a man's personal space becomes a message expressing a desire to take part of him for himself.
Of course, these signals are not always unambiguous. There are people who have a natural tendency to touch others. They are then considered to be more likely to flirt, even if this is not true.
Why do you need to know
There are a number of reasons that indicate the need to find out information regarding whether the girl has sympathy for you or not.
- This is important in order to learn how to determine whether someone reciprocates your feelings or not. It is much easier to recognize these signs than to become interested in someone who will only leave you disappointed.
- When a guy sees that he is attractive to his chosen one, he begins to feel more confident, quickly moves on to the dating process, and the relationship develops more quickly.
- A young man who knows how to recognize non-verbal and verbal signs is able to control the relationship that has begun and avoid a number of mistakes.
Straightening your hair, playing with your hair
In all of nonverbal communication, eyes and hair play are among the easiest gestures to recognize, although they are also not free from interpretation errors. Much depends on how a woman plays with her hair and other related actions. So the answer to the question of what it means when a girl plays with her hair is not at all clear.
Some men, especially dominant ones, react strongly to the way a woman twirls a strand of hair around her fingers. This form of touch triggers a man's nurturing instinct. However, it is worth knowing that signs of flirting can be said when a woman looks at someone or looks into his eyes. When they are tense, nervous and looking down, they are probably uncomfortable. If playing with hair by pulling strands or twirling them around your fingers occurs during a conversation and is combined with avoidance of eye contact or lack of direct gaze, this is likely to indicate boredom. On the other hand, shaking the hairstyle is a reflex that aims to diffuse the aroma and convey a subconscious desire to the man under the eyes to take on this role.
Conclusion
All of the above signs indicate sympathy. You need to learn to notice them and interpret them correctly. Also, do not forget that you still need to communicate and directly ask what concerns you. Sometimes you can imagine something that doesn't exist. Therefore, you shouldn’t forget about simple communication either.
It’s always easier to talk and find out everything than to fantasize. Most often, fantasies do not correspond to reality. But nonverbal signs can help understand another person's feelings if he is embarrassed or afraid to talk openly about them.
Gestures that show lack of interest
But there are nonverbal gestures that show lack of interest. One of them is crossing your arms over your chest. Such a gesture says that the man does not want to contact you, he is protecting himself, and feels awkward. In addition, crossed legs are also a sign of lack of sympathy.
Reluctance to communicate is expressed in hiding hands in pockets, hiding ears, and also bringing strangers into the conversation. Thus, the man turns on his defenses, builds a wall so as not to meet with you. In addition, signals that indicate a lack of interest are expressed in a boring look that a man looks away from you from time to time, a long face, and yawning.
With the help of other objects, he tries to entertain himself: he picks up objects at hand and spins them, sorts them out. This is evidence of apathy.
